What does forgiveness really mean, and who gets to decide when someone deserves it? In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationships with forgiveness, shaped by our experiences with Christianity, family conflict, and the realities of harm and injustice. We stress that there is a difference between forgiveness, repentance, accountability, and repair. Oftentimes, religious teachings about forgiveness can be weaponized to silence people who have been hurt. But what does it mean to extend compassion without abandoning boundaries or accountability? We get into the overarching binary of the “good” and the “bad” people and reflect on the possibility of letting go without necessarily forgiving. It’s important to admit that we are all capable of harm, but also that we must work towards healing, compassion, and community even if we have hurt someone.
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